Author: Sheri Denkensohn-Trott
The above quote is so accurate, unless you are a person who never worries. I find myself wishing I could be so carefree. In fact, I’d be satisfied finding a middle ground! It’s unrealistic to not concern oneself with the events of life, but worrying about them raises it to a different level. When does worry master you?
My answer to that question is when worry starts to consume you. When it becomes difficult to make changes, whether it be personal or professional. Recently, I’ve had to make changes related to my disability: new medical equipment, different products for my daily routine, and many procedural and administrative hurdles because of a change in insurance. To answer questions about what course to follow on each issue I have consulted others with personal experience, but it is up to me to act, make an informed decision, and move forward. And oftentimes the degree of uncertainty is overwhelming.
I have had many conversations with myself in my head. It becomes a running tape. I start asking questions like, “Will this product work?” “What if it doesn’t?” “How does this new process work?” “I’m running up against difficult roadblocks, can I overcome them?” That frame of mind makes me immobile and is when the worrying is mastering me.
At some point, I realize that I must become the master of change and not worry. In most cases I don’t have a choice but to try. Believe that I have resilience to overcome obstacles.. Who knows? The result may be better. New isn’t necessarily bad. Different processes might take work, but I will figure it out. Yes, something may be out of my comfort zone because I’ve been doing it the same way for years, but that doesn’t necessarily mean that doing it will result in disaster. When it comes to serious health issues, it’s hard not to worry, but even then, it’s best that worry not master you.
Music, laughter, getting outside, being with friends, and reading a book provide a reprieve from the worry. And I’ll make it through. I know that I’m not alone in the worry department. I need to make sure that I am the master and not the mastered. Also, coffee helps!