In Sickness and in Health; Who Mentioned a Pandemic?
Author: Sheri Denkensohn-Trott
At our wedding, 16 years ago on September 3rd, we took our vows. While we made some adjustments to the traditional vows and had readings to represent the Jewish religion (me) and Catholic religion (Tony), we both agree that we do not remember the word pandemic. Yes, the vows included commitment to each other, encouragement to the other in times of challenge, and being supportive of individual growth. However, I can tell you for sure that we did not envision being alone together for going on 18 months.
I never thought that I would get married. The story of how I met Tony is legendary amongst my family and friends, and if you’d like to hear it in its entirety and have some laughs, go to Story District on YouTube and search for Sucker for Love 2020. In short, one evening spent with my girlfriends we each wrote the qualities of what we wanted in a man on a paper plate, hoping that we would meet that person. Tony turned out to be my plate mate.
Luckily for me, Tony was and still is a great pandemic mate. I am grateful for this, as I know many individuals who were alone or in relationships that were very difficult to maintain and sustain during the pandemic. We found new ways to connect. Binging television shows together that we liked and making sure to watch other shows unique to our own taste after the other person was asleep or not around. We became great fans of Words with Friends, a Scrabble like game where we each play from our respective phones. We also spent more time talking. Storytelling about the past, sharing our fears and hopes related to the pandemic and the future in general, and trying to plan fun dinners together to break up the monotony (and Tony is an excellent chef). Overall, I’d say we passed the test.
The pandemic remains and we are still navigating difficult waters. We continue to deal with every day health issues, household tasks, and work, and those things will likely remain unchanged. The virus is still around, causing different types of challenges and decision trees as far as our activities, specifically where we go and others that we allow into our circle to ensure safety.
Regardless of all the chaos, for everyone, it is important to stop and be thankful. That thankfulness may be different for everyone. For me, right now at our 16th Anniversary I am thankful that my pandemic mate Tony is with me on this journey.