Author: Sheri Denkensohn-Trott
The Greek philosopher Heraclitus is credited with saying, “The only constant in life is change.” That has certainly been a truth in my life and I’m sure in life of almost everyone reading this blog. Obviously at 16 when I had my accident I endured a huge change, but there have been phases of change throughout my life related to my disability and changes that are completely unrelated and probably would’ve happened anyway.
The pandemic certainly upended the life of everyone but was terrifying for me because of my trach. It has been three long years of isolation and I finally feel like I can start to live again, although I am still taking necessary precautions. During COVID, my sister was very sick with liver cancer and ultimately passed away in October 2022. Then, I went through a big change in my health care 
support and that led to a huge overhaul in my financial management. It was a long period of being “off the grid” and not feeling like myself. Times of depression, loneliness, confusion, self-doubt, and a gamut of emotions all at once that the extroverted and happy me did not recognize.
What did I do to get help? First, I was lucky enough to find access to a good therapist and psychiatrist. I also attended grief counseling and joined a grief support group. Everyone deals with difficult times and especially grief differently, but this worked for me. Additionally, the support of my husband and immediate family and close friends was and continues to be the foundation of my life. I appreciate all these individuals each day, but when you go through tough times you realize who the “true blue” people in your life are. Even the friends that know to check in intermittently or to leave you alone knowing that you will reach out when you are ready.
The other critical factors for me, that continue to be a part of my daily life, include meditation, exercise, and weekly yoga nidra (resting yoga). Getting in touch with my inner self and stopping the negative tape that runs in your head is critical. For some this is not the answer, but there are many articles talking about these activities I have listed as being a mainstay for mental health and wellness. Eating healthy also helps immensely, and although it takes work to plan, it is cheaper, and you realize that you feel better. Sleep comes easier and slowly but surely, even though you think you will never get there, you begin to see your “old self.”
I feel like I have finally emerged from a long dark winter, that didn’t just include the winter. My doctor recently gave me a great report and I am slowly getting back to consulting services that I enjoy. I will not push myself too hard and will continue the activities that keep me balanced. The same activities also make me realize when I am out of balance and need to take a step back. There are still many things that I can worry about, but worrying each day is not healthy. I can take small actions on the issues that involve worry and then put them aside until I need to deal with them again.
If I were to give advice to anyone going through an enormous period of change it would be to lean on those who are there for you, don’t be afraid to get help, take to heart the articles and options for mental and physical health, and find joy. It doesn’t have to be a 
trip around the world (although I wouldn’t turn it down if someone was willing to pay!) Or something big and fancy. Reading a book in the sunshine, drinking your favorite coffee, or being outside in nature can bring happiness if you choose to find it. Yes, I know there will be more change to come, but I hope I have the tools in place to make that change a bit easier.
